3 Ways Silent Treatment Is Detrimental To Your Relationship


By Modupeoluwa Adekanye

Relationships require lots of work for it to work. Every kinds of relationship require efforts because they involve different people coming together; be it friendships, work or romantic relationships.

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There is a popular saying that “silence is golden”, which infers that in any relationship, there comes a time when one party might have to maintain silence for peace to reign.

However, silence can be manipulative and abusive at times. Silent treatment which some people resort to after fights with their partners can become toxic. 

In contexts where silence becomes manipulative and destructive, it is used as a weapon to cut off meaningful conversations, stop the flow of information, and ultimately hurt the other person.

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When the person using the silent treatment takes away the ability to communicate and collaborate with one another, the person on the receiving end often will go to great lengths to restore the verbal aspect of the relationship.

This allows the silent person to feel vindicated, powerful, and in control, while the person on the receiving end feels confused and maybe even afraid of losing the relationship.

Below are what silent treatment entails and could lead to:


Giving a person the “cold shoulder” or ignoring is done by dismissing the person or even disregarding their existence.

It is used as a way to devalue a person and establish a hierarchy of superiority in favor of the abuser. For instance, paying no attention to a person as if they were not present, discounting a comment as if it was not heard, forgetting about an event as if it was never scheduled, or looking down on a person as if they are stupid.

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Dysfunctional Relatioships

In dysfunctional relationships, your partner exiles you over the most frivolous of matters with the use of silent treatment.

So trivial, in fact, that you do not even recall what you are supposed to have done. Even when you do remember, the fallout is disproportionate to the alleged offence.

You begin to feel so insecure in your relationship that you develop a fear of abandonment. And this constant state of defense and apologising and assumed guilt greatly diminishes a person’s ability to develop and cultivate a healthy sense of self-worth.

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The narcissist lacks empathy and is emotionally immature. Big on empty promises, he initially sweeps you off your feet in a whirlwind romance.

At some point in your relationship, you will undoubtedly be on the receiving end of the silent treatment. Also known as emotional withholding, this is a manipulation technique favoured by those who have narcissistic temperaments.

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Unlike others who may withdraw because they feel hurt, are sulking or simply wish to avoid conflict, the narcissist uses stonewalling in order to keep you in your place.

If you feel your relationship is toxic, discuss with your partner. However, if your relationship is affecting your mental health, it might be time to let go of such. Silent treatment is never the answer, communicating with your partner is totally necessary for the emotional growth of both parties.

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One Comment Add yours

  1. edochie99 says:

    Silence in a relationship is not good because your partner might see it as a sign of weakness. Whereas you are only trying to let peace reign.Trust me it will not reign.Rather than keeping quiet see a counselor and if it didn’t work, get out of the toxic relationship. I wrote a book on “The 15 signs of a bad partner by Philomena N Okeke”.See my 15 flags.


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